"Real Friends"

We all have friends. Or at least people that we call our friends. Those people that we let into our lives enough that they know little details about ourselves. But it's the amount of details they know that pretty much determines the kind of friends they are.

But what makes a good friend? A "real friend"? What separates those that we just call "friends" from those that are "best friends"? Is it having someone that is just like you? Someone who has many of the same issues? Is it someone you see or talk to every week? Every day? Someone that you can laugh with? Someone that can make you laugh when all you can do is cry? Or is it someone that will cry with you?

Does calling someone your "best friend" really make it so? Or is it something that never has to be spoken?

In my opinion, a real friend, a true friend, a best friend... is everything that I said above and more. It is more than just a connection. It is more than commonality. It is more than a title. It's a place in your heart. A place in your mind. Something that no amount of time apart could ever affect. It's love. It's real love. It's loving what's right and what's wrong about someone. It's remaining true far beyond when your "true colors" show. It's trusting someone enough to let them into your life. And sometimes it's sharing with them something that you can't share with anyone else.

My best friend... is someone that I would do just about anything for. Someone that I have known for more than a long time. Someone who will forever have a place in my heart. Someone who is family. Someone that without them in my life... my life just wouldn't be the same.

That's what a real friend is to me. What about you?

Live, love & learn!

-The King

Secrets

Secrets. Everyone has secrets. "I hate him." "I like her." "My father beats me." "I'm pregnant." "I shouldn't really be president." Secrets simultaniously seperate us all and keep us together. I mean let's face it, our country is built on secrets. Our very own government has always believed that the less people know, the better. And let's be honest, we get upset when the media keeps information from us, but if we knew everything we would live in constant panic.

But enough about the government/media. What about common secrets? Secrets among friends or family. Are they healthy? Is it good when some people in a group know or feel something about others who don't know? Can the friendships really maintain in those kind of situations? I think so. I mean, as long as the secrets are not devastating. The reason I feel that it can be healthy is because sometimes it's too much to hold in the way you feel. Sometimes you need that person to bounce emotions off of. Plus, secrets are never really about the secret. It's about the trust you have with the person you tell it to.

But just be careful. Sometimes secrets can be a lot more damaging that you could imagine. Sometimes it's best to keep your lips sealed.

Well, that's my advice for the day. But shh... Don't tell anybody. :)


Live, love & learn!

- The King

Comfort Zone

For the most part, our adult lives are spent trying to establish, obtain, and maintain a comfort zone. What this comfort zone is is of course relative to each person. But it's that place where we feel the most comfort. (Duh, I know) It's that place where we can not only be ourselves but can fell completely safe in all environments. I like to call it the "blankey" effect. You know, when little kids have that one "blankey" that they take everywhere because it's the one that feels the best and always keeps them warm. That's the equivalent of a comfort zone.

For some people this comes from money. For some it's love. Maybe family. Maybe that dream job.


Whatever it is, the only way you ever really truly aknowledge that you have found it, is when you lose it. But once it is lost it doesn't have to be gone forever. Sometimes things are taken away from you to make you realize their signifigance. But that doesn't mean that you should give up. It is now just time to get your priorities in order. It's time to start thinking like the adult that you need to be and no longer like the child you once were.

Personally, I have come to the conclusion that I have more than one comfort zone. I have family, music, friends and love. Not necessarily in that order. Honestly, I don't know if I could break those down into a hierarchy of order of importance. Of course family would be the highest though.
But you know what... I think my true comfort zone.... My true utopia... Is a mix and balance of all four. And maybe that's why I feel so uncomfortable right now. Because I'm missing at least one of those elements. And since I am quite content with my family, music, and friends.... I guess love is what is lost. But if that's the case, I guess it would be selfish of me to complain about being 75% comfortable in a world like ours. But I still would like to feel complete.

So I guess I just live on trying to establish, obtain, and maintain my comfort zone. I hope you all do the same.


Live, love & learn!
- The King

Truth Or Dare

(This post is not about what you think.) :)


I have a question. Why is it that people tend to live their lives with the parameters of truth or dare? Meaning, why does there have to be a back and forth between honesty and action? Why are people so against being who they really are? Why are people only comfortable showing a little insight into themselves when they are "dared" to do so? Maybe they are afraid of what others will think of them. Maybe they are afraid of what they will think of themselves. I'm sure the reasons vary from person to person. But how about this... How about we dare ourselves to be true to ourselves. Think you could handle that?


There is an amazing feeling when you know that you truly have no regrets for your actions. Or better yet, that you have no regrets for not making an action that you might wish you did.


There is something so rare and refreshing about being around someone that you know will not hold back any punches from you. That person that would be brutally honest but out of the kindness of their heart. Honestly, I would like more friends like that sometimes. But all I can do is live my life to the fullest and let my ora help those same kinds of people gravitate towards me.


I'm not going to say that life is short, because for the most part it's very long. But I will say that you never know who will enter or exit your life at any day. And the biggest regrets are always not being true to someone that you no langer have access to. Just think about it.


Live, love & learn!

- The King


(R.I.P. Thurman)

"New Fam"

I used to think that friends lasted forever. But I learned quickly that it wasn't always true. I actually began to believe that there weren't any friendships that could last forever. In my life I have experienced all of the kinds of friends.
Those that are friends because you share a friend, but if that friend moves on so do they.
Those that are only friends because of who you are or what you can do.
Those that will smile in your face, but behind your back speak of you as the worst of worst.
Those who really are your friends but will only serve as a season in your life. Once they fill their purpose they are no longer needed or wanted.
But sometimes you find that friend that you know will always be a part of your life. That you know if worst came to worst they would stay by your side. Some people only encounter one of these people in their lives. Sometimes more. Sometimes none.

I was under the impression that I would have a few of those true friends in my life. But I wasn't too concerned with it.

But you see, sometimes people enter your life unexpectedly. You may not know they're coming. You may not know how long they'll be there. But sometimes those people do more for you than you could ever imagine. Sometimes they can show you a new light. And that's where my "New Fam" comes into the picture. There is something about these people that I can't get enough of. I've never known another group of people as large as us where I didn't have a dislike for anyone. I look forward to having not only a lasting friendship with these people, but I look forward to seeing all the ups and downs that our "family" will encounter.

I love you all!!!

Live, love & learn!
-The King

Intro to a "King's Life"

So what truly makes us happy in life? That depends on what one holds highly.

Personally, family is what I hold the most high. Without my family I wouldn't be half of the person that I am today. My mother is the backbone of my life. She is my best friend, my confidante, my number one supporter, my mentor, my everything. My mother is the reason I was able to graduate from college at the age of 20. That's the kind of mother she is.

My brother is the future. He annoys me with the fact that he towers over me and he's my younger brother. But other than that he is the reason why I must live my life to the fullest and keep my head on straight. I have someone that looks up to what I do and will follow my lead. If I open the wrong door he might walk through it. I could never allow that.

Other than family... there are friends, music, money and love. Not necessarily in that order though.

I love my friends. My real friends. I love them all. I keep my circle of friends very small and very tight. But I wouldn't want to lose any of them for any reason.

Music is what drives me in so many ways. I spend about 75% of the typical day listening to music. When I'm in my car I'm listening to music. At work... listening to music. And when i get free time at home... you guessed it... listening to music. And when I'm not listening to music I spend a lot of my time creating music. Music is my life.

That leads me to my money. You see, I work in the music industry. So not only is music what I love, but it's what i get paid to love. And I love my job more than I ever thought I would. The people in my company are the best in the business. By far!

Now... last, but certainly not least, LOVE! I love love. I am a serious romantic. Falling in love is probably one of the best feelings in the world. I'm one of those people that loves to have that significant other to bounce things off of. It's nice to have that person that really knows you. That person that you can be yourself with at all times. And they love you for it. That's just how I feel.

Well, that is a small intro into the kind of things that I will be talking about in this blog. So feel free to come back whenever you want. I plan on posting new blogs as often as possible.

Live, love & learn!

-The King